INTRO:
What is comparison? Why does it affect our mental health? And how to stop comparing yourself to others?
This is what we will discuss right in this episode. Welcome to mod podcast.
Heyy its been a while. This is Nour and today we will take about comparison
WHAT is comparison ?
Broadly speaking, comparison is when you put yourself in a balance with others. It is the act of measuring yourself or your circumstances against others;
When we talk about comparison, we’re essentially looking at how we measure our self-worth and happiness based on what we perceive in others.
But of course the fact is that it doesn’t give an accurate reading of your own situation or take into account the bigger picture, like the opportunities and experiences the other person has had that led them to the point they’re at.
For instance, we used to compare our achievement in order to measure it if it’s successful or not. Not based on our own improvement but based others results; WHICH IS NOT FEAR AT ALL!!
WHY comparison affects your mental health ?
Comparison can lead to a range of fairly-negative emotions and behaviours
Comparing yourself to others can make you overly critical of your own flaws and imperfections, which isn’t exactly a great recipe for self-compassion and mental well-being.
Indeed, avoiding or reducing comparison is like giving your mental well-being a breath of fresh air. It removes that constant doubt and self-criticism, and replaces it with greater confidence and self-belief.
It helps you to be more authentic and to let yourself be yourself, without question or apology.
Furthermore, Reducing comparison allows you to shift your attention towards self-compassion and self-care, which are essential for your mental well-being, and it can reduce negative self-talk, not to mention negative thoughts and feelings that can contribute to anxiety and depression.
HOW to stop comparing yourself to others so much ?
- Cultivate your self-awareness: because being self-aware is like a compass when it comes to comparison; it helps you to orient your focus away from what other people are (or are not) doing, and instead back towards yourself… focus on it and recognize when you are in a comparison so you can take a step back.
- Embrace self-compassion: because self-compassion is like giving yourself a warm hug when you need it most. It involves treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you’d offer to your beloved ones.
- Limit your social media exposure: in order to limit the amount of fake perfection; comparing your self to it is just not fear at all it is like your comparing yourself with mirage.
- Create and celebrate your story: have a unique story without coping others, but instead you can get inspirations from others in order to improve yourself; so. Create your fingerprint in this world which worth living.
- Focus on your own personal growth: keep your eyes open toward your goals and don’t be distracted by others achievement because trust me, your turn will come in the right timing.
- Unplug regularly: choose to take regular breaks from screens and technology to help you reconnect with the real world. This is a really simple way to regain your perspective and to reduce the impact of online comparison. Embrace nature, it is the only truth in this life.
- Surround yourself with positivity: choose who to hang out with, limit your circle to positive and hopeful people and avoid toxic ones because they tend to make you feel less than them which is not true.
- Accept your imperfections: understand that imperfections are part of being human, because nobody is perfect… so admire your weaknesses as your admire your strengths because they made you who you are now.
- Focus on your strengths: concentrate on your unique strengths and talents, and learn to celebrate them. Acknowledge your abilities and cultivate them further; the more you develop your strengths, the more confident you’ll feel and the less you’ll be inclined to compare yourself to others.
- Celebrate small wins: this is like filling your life’s journey with joyful milestones , and it reminds you of your accomplishments… no matter how minor they may seem. You can do this by acknowledging and celebrating even the tiniest achievements, whether it’s completing a project or simply getting out of bed on a challenging day.
OUTRO:
I would like to end up with quote for reflexion:
“Happiness in the present is only shattered by comparison with the past”
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